Postpartum Depression: Every Mother Shares A Common Wish To Be A Good Mom

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Do you care about postpartum depression? You should.

Every mother shares a common wish.  It doesn’t matter what level of education she has, where she lives, her race or her religion: she wants desperately to be a good mom.  Imagine then, that most important dream being dashed at the start.  At a time when others celebrate new life, this mom is devastated, disconnected and afraid.  Her symptoms can range from the inability to eat or sleep, to disturbing thoughts about harming her child, to numbness or feelings of unbridled rage, among others.  She is unable to function on a daily basis.  She is convinced without question that she has failed as a mother.

The only way to reverse that perception and get her new family off to a healthy, strong start is to treat her for the most common complications of childbirth: postpartum depression and anxiety.  Except, she either doesn’t know she needs treatment or, if she does, she doesn’t know where to find it or doesn’t have access to it.  Like the vast majority of other mothers with her condition, she won’t get the professional help she needs.   She has no idea whatsoever that this could lead to health problems, including lifelong chronic depression, and that her baby is being affected negatively as well when it comes to his or her cognitive development, attachment and future psychological health.

It might be one thing if she was among just a handful of moms, but she isn’t.  She is among more than half a million mothers with untreated postpartum depression each year, as well as several hundred thousand more still suffering from illnesses that were never treated the previous years, and at least one million children whose future health is unquestionably at stake.  And that’s just in America.

Postpartum Progress is working to change that.  We need your help.  We are counting on you to help us by donating today.  If you join our cause by writing a post in support of Strong Start Day, please add your link below.  If you send an email to all your friends and loved ones asking for their support by donating to help moms with postpartum depression, please let us know in the comments section.  And know that we plan to list every single person who donates to our cause this week, except for those who prefer to remain anonymous.

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Free Phone Chats with Postpartum Depression Experts This Week

Postpartum Support International would like to remind you of its scheduled Chats with an Expert this week.  The Monday Chat for Men is this evening at 8pm Eastern, facilitated by Dr. David Miller.  The Wednesday Chat for Women is on October 5th at noon Eastern, facilitated by Linda Klempner.  Call in! It’s free, you can remain anonymous if you like, and you can get your questions answered, whether you are calling for yourself, or are a dad calling about your wife or partner.  To learn more, click here.

ABC’s Medical Editor to Host Twitter Chat on Postpartum Depression

Postpartum Depression Twitter ChatI’m very excited to be part of a Twitter chat on postpartum depression next week with Dr. Richard Besser, who is the Medical Editor for ABC News and also a pediatrician.

Dr. Besser hosts Twitter chats every Tuesday on a wide variety of health topics, and next Tuesday I will join him on a chat about postpartum depression.  I hope all of you will join in!  It’s at 1pm Eastern time, and the hashtag to participate is #abcDrBchat.

Editor’s update: The chat turned out great, and Dr. Besser says it was the best attended of any one he has ever done, so way to go PPD mamas!!!!!

Six-Word Memoirs of Postpartum Depression

postpartum depressionWe asked survivors of postpartum depression and anxiety to give us a six-word memoir or story of their experience. Postpartum Progress’ Six Things Six-Word PPD Memoir challenge was inspired by SMITH Magazine’s Six-Word Memoir project and bestselling book series, where thousands of people continue to write the short story of their lives, many of whom are featured in books.

Here are some our favorite six-word memoirs of postpartum depression and anxiety (give it a second to load – it’s kinda slow):

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    In darkness I mourn, nobody understands. ~ Augusta

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    I hate my life. Press rewind. ~ Kim R.

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    A sneaky, toxic thief of light. ~ Stacey

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Waves of rage and foggy mind. ~ Robin

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Never ending roller coaster from hell. ~ Liz

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    I don\'t understand why I\'m crying. ~ Melissa

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Where has the real me gone? ~ Teresa

  • Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Life would be better without me. ~ Gina

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Intense panic and sadness engulf me. ~ Cristi

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Time stealing, joy delaying, evil asshole. ~ Laura

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Where is this baby\'s real mother? ~ Lisa

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Anxiety. Rage. Bad mom. Guilt. Repeat. ~ Addie

  • Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Not forever, but feels like it. ~ Amber

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    Six-Word Memoirs of PPD

    Better now. Never saw it coming. ~ Allyn

Warrior Moms of the Week – 9/9/11 Edition

fighting postpartum depressionThank you readers, for all of your nominations.  (Don’t forget – from now on, everyone highlighted on Warrior Moms of the Week is nominated by YOU, the reader.)  Here are your Warrior Moms of the Week!

From Robin at Farewell, Stranger on being ready to declare that she has won the battle against postpartum depression.

From Mama’s Monologues, on how it’s important to focus on your strengths.

From Amy Weisman, writing on Band Back Together, on her suicide attempt and now knowing there is a way out of the dark hole of depression.

From Mommy’s Little Monster Blake, on seeking help for postpartum depression and anxiety.

Kimberly from All Work & No Play Makes Mommy Go Something Something on the fact that there’s always hope in tomorrow.

From Amber at Beyond Postpartum on giving yourself time and becoming the mother you want to be.

From Yael Saar, appearing at Motherhood Unadorned, with the Good Mom Anthem.

Strollerthon Supports NC Moms With Postpartum Depression

postpartum depression strollerthonNorth Carolina’s postpartum depression support organization, Postpartum Education and Support (PES), will hold its 2nd annual StrollerThon and 5k on October 1 in Apex, NC.  The event at Crowder Park will support the continued efforts of PES to reach every mother in the Triangle who needs help with perinatal mental illness.  Please join them at the event by registering here, or consider making a donation to support their work here.

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Husbands’ False Beliefs About Postpartum Depression

postpartum depression mythsI was looking for something in my library of postpartum depression books and came upon an interesting excerpt from Karen Kleiman’s book “The Postpartum Husband.” She lists beliefs some husband’s may have about their wives’ postpartum depression that are false. Does (did) your husband or partner have any of these?

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Postpartum Depression: 9 Years Later

children of postpartum depressionTomorrow my son will be ten.  10!  I can’t believe it has now been ten years since my glorious boy was born, and approximately nine years since I had postpartum depression, or to be more precise, postpartum OCD.

Ten years ago I was a mess.  I thought my son would never love me.  I thought I’d end up being taken away and locked up somewhere and not be his mother for long.  I thought that would be a good thing, if I wasn’t his mother for long, because I thought he deserved much better than me.

Now I see how he loves me.  Adores me, even.  We are very close. This is such a gift to me, given my fears back then.  That I had ruined him.

I am a good mom and he is a good boy.

He wasn’t ruined by postpartum depression.  He isn’t ruined.  He’s great.  He’s very healthy.  He’s witty, does great in school and is wonderfully kind.  He’s cute, and thoughtful, and last night we laughed and laughed as he tried to complete his first clarinet lesson and ending up mainly honking out painful notes.

I’m so glad I’m his mom. and that I was so wrong about myself and my ability to mother those ten long years go.

Love conquers all.

Get Understanding Support For Postpartum Depression With Daily Hope

Daily Hope is one of the most popular services of Postpartum Progress.  When a mom with postpartum depression signs up for Daily Hope, she receives emails with a supportive and understanding message about what she is going through with postpartum depression and anxiety (or related illness) and tips on how to survive it.

Here is what just a few moms are saying:

  • “Just wanted to say thank you for sending these out everyday.  You know what it means to know you are not alone in the trenches.”
  • “I am going to print this and hang it on my fridge.”
  • “Thank you soooo much for your words of encouragement and for shedding light on a very confusing thing.  I know I keep saying it, but I can’t tell you how much Daily Hope has meant to me.”
  • “This is exactly what I needed to hear today!”
  • “Your  emails help me everyday.  I always look forward to them.”
  • “Thank you for this today!!  It really struck an accord with me today and I needed it!!”
  • “These emails give me a little boost of reassurrance, connection and hope every time I read one.”
  • “I just gotta tell you that you have the most awesome collection of keep going quotes I have EVER seen!”

Would you like the same support? Just sign up at the following link over at Hopeful World Publishing to get knowledgeable and encouraging postpartum depression help from Postpartum Progress right in your inbox! (Oh, and the messages are applicable to all perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, whether you are pregnant or postpartum, with depression, OCD, anxiety, or PTSD.)

Hope you’ll join the hundreds of moms who are already part of Daily Hope!

Warrior Moms of the Week – 9/2/11Edition

fighting postpartum depressionHere are the Warrior Moms of the Week, as nominated by the readers of Postpartum Progress …

An absolutely beautiful story in pictures from Kimberly at All Work & No Play Makes Mommy Go Something Something about why fighting against postpartum depression is worth it.  Wow.

From my friend Janice at 5 Minutes for Mom, on mental illness and how showing weakness is true strength. Love you, Janice.

Susan from Learned Happiness on putting postpartum depression in its place.

From another friend, Casey at Moosh in Indy (who, by the way, wears the same perfume and flip flops and uses the same shampoo and toothpaste as I do), on being stronger than anything broken inside of you.

From Healing Mutti, a rainy day letter to help you get through the bad days of postpartum depression.  Such a lovely idea.

From Minnesota Joy, guest posting at Motherhood Unadorned, on why she’s not a bad mom even though she had postpartum depression.

From Story Girl, on why, when it comes to being a mom, her love alone is enough.

Oh, and please go send this mama some love.  She had “one of those days”.