Warrior Moms of the Week: Why Postpartum Depression Is NOT A Cop Out or A Choice

fighting postpartum depression, Warrior MomIt’s been a while since I’ve had the time to do a Warrior Moms of the Week post (I know, I know, please don’t make me feel more guilty about it than I already do), but I just can’t let it go by this week without mentioning three people:

First, go see Lexy at Mammywoo, whose praises I sing nonstop because she’s that good of a writer, writing about why postpartum depression, or depression of any kind for that matter, is NOT a lifestyle choice.  A must read.

Second, Katie is about to have another baby after having had postpartum depression, and she writes about her worries. Her normal, perfectly-good-mom worries. [Read more...]

Warrior Moms of the Week – 9/9/11 Edition

fighting postpartum depressionThank you readers, for all of your nominations.  (Don’t forget – from now on, everyone highlighted on Warrior Moms of the Week is nominated by YOU, the reader.)  Here are your Warrior Moms of the Week!

From Robin at Farewell, Stranger on being ready to declare that she has won the battle against postpartum depression.

From Mama’s Monologues, on how it’s important to focus on your strengths.

From Amy Weisman, writing on Band Back Together, on her suicide attempt and now knowing there is a way out of the dark hole of depression.

From Mommy’s Little Monster Blake, on seeking help for postpartum depression and anxiety.

Kimberly from All Work & No Play Makes Mommy Go Something Something on the fact that there’s always hope in tomorrow.

From Amber at Beyond Postpartum on giving yourself time and becoming the mother you want to be.

From Yael Saar, appearing at Motherhood Unadorned, with the Good Mom Anthem.

Warrior Moms of the Week 5/6/11

I'm getting ready for Mother's Day. Most of the posts are up and scheduled. Still waiting on a few people. Loading up the intro video in a few minutes. I really hope to see all of you here at some point on Mother's Day. In the meantime, here are some great posts on PPD from this week. If I missed a good one, let me know. It's been a BIZZZZZY week.

Yael from the blog Postpartum Depression to Joy on mantras for bad PPD days

Robin from the blog Farewell Stranger on the ratio of good days to bad days when recovering from postpartum depression

Amber from Beyond Postpartum does a nice round-up of a few Mother's Day things, including a video made by MotherWoman celebrating mothers

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Katie from Sluiter Nation writes a beautiful letter to herself on the one year "anniversary" of recognizing she had postpartum depression.

Lauren from My Postpartum Voice, who asks out loud whether the bad thoughts of postpartum anxiety ever go away.

A lovely story about Jenny's Light's Elizabeth Hopfenspirger and her advocacy for women with PPD.

Mama Robin J on what it feels like to be stuck in PPD's circle of despair.

The Deliberate Mom writes about struggling with antenatal depression.

Kimberly from All Work & No Play Makes Mommy Go Something Something on the first time she smiled from her soul after going through PPD.

Also worth checking out:

Gail Rosenblum, columnist at the Minneapolis Star-Tribune, on poverty and postpartum depression.

Who Gets To Be A Warrior Mom of the Week?

There are lots of listings and rankings in the blogging world. The top 50 this and the best that. Postpartum Progress rarely shows up on any of them, because … well, I don't know why. I think we've got great shit here. ;-) Maybe we're a bit too niche. I'd be lying if I said that didn't matter to me, only because I know when we do get recognition, more pregnant women and new moms find out that this resource is available to them. That is important to me. Very important.

Anyway, today I noticed a list came out called 100 Voices That Matter. Even though I'm a fan of many of the bloggers listed, I thought the list name was almost rude. It infers that other voices don't matter, which is crazy because I know a ton of people who weren't on the list whose voices matter to me quite a lot.

That got me to thinking about the Warrior Moms of the Week link roundups I often do, and it made me want to clarify them. If I don't link to a piece you or someone you like has written, it's not because your voice doesn't matter. It's not because you aren't a Warrior Mom. It's likely because I have very little time to read, and thus I don't get the chance to read all of your great stuff. I'm only able to share the few things I've seen that are wonderful, while at the same time I realize there are others out there who have written wonderful things too.

I encourage you to add links in the comments section if you have seen other pieces on maternal mental health that you think others should read as well. As we discussed here earlier this week, we are all Warrior Moms in one way or another. Everyone is welcome, no matter where they are in their struggle or how they are handling that struggle. Let's make sure that as many voices are heard as possible.

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For your inspirational pleasure … there were so many of you saying such powerful things this week …

(Oh, and please know if you wrote something amazing this week and I didn't put it here, it's probably cause I didn't see it. I'm just one person. Don't be mad. Send me a link!)

Not Super Just Mom on the issue of weaning off of medication for postpartum depression

Karen Kleiman on Psychology Today on how the "breast is best" breastfeeding campaign can affect women with postpartum depression

MamaRobinJ on thinking of harming your child (I've been there)

Joy at MamaJoy on why it's never good to suffer in silence

Julie from Not Enough Coffee on fighting back against postpartum depression, even when you don't have all the answers (no one does)

Mommie or Bust writing about her experience with post-adoption depression

Amber from Atlanta Mom on why it's never too late (and it isn't!)

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So much openness and honesty …

Amber Koter at Beyond Postpartum on hopelessness and postpartum depression.

Elizabeth Lombino on the myth of the superhero mom and why PPD is so taboo.

Mama Robin J on the game Jenga as a metaphor for PPD. (love that!)

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Some wonderful Warrior Moms sharing stories of doing their best to get through antenatal and postpartum depression …

Mama Robin at Rage Against the Baby talking about one of the symptoms many moms with PPD are surprised to experience: anger.

A guest post on Mommypants about postpartum depression after infertility.

Casey from Moosh in Indy guest posting on Mile High Mommy about attempting suicide during her first pregnancy. Wow. (And how I remember what it's like to have only that single visiting hour in the psych ward. I LIVED for it.)

Laura from Depressed But Not Unhappy Mormon Mommy on labels, medication and acceptance.

Wanna Change How The World Treats Postpartum Depression? Join The Warrior Moms Task Force

Nothing is going to change unless we do something about it.

There aren't enough postpartum depression support groups. There aren't enough specialized treatment programs. There isn't enough understanding and support from people who've never been though a perinatal mood and anxiety disorder. There isn't enough informed and accurate media coverage. There isn't enough funding.

You know this. These are facts.

I've been strategizing about Postpartum Progress the non-profit and what I want to accomplish. I want to make real change. The kind moms will see and feel. And I want things to happen in short order, not over decades. I've always said that I started Postpartum Progress because I didn't want women to have the same lack of resources and support I did, yet more than 7 years later I still hear from moms every day who are having the same experience of isolation, bad clinical support, stigma and more.

I know there is no way to accomplish anything without you, the people who, like me, are sick of accepting the status quo. So I'm asking you to join me by joining the Warrior Moms Task Force.

The Warrior Moms Task Force will be made up of survivors, moms, clinicians, dads — anyone who is passionate and energetic about changing the world when it comes to postpartum depression and related illnesses.

We will divide up into small groups, dive in and turn our wishes and dreams into reality. Each project will be very concrete and goal-oriented, because the last thing I want is for them to suffer "death by committee." Each group member will have finite tasks, so that they won't be overwhelmed by having a lot to do. Each project will also have a Warrior Mom group leader to make sure things are moving along. Each of you will be publicly mentioned and honored for the work you do so that moms can see the diversity and passion of the people working to help them (unless, of course, you'd rather remain anonymous and that's ok too). The Warrior Moms Task Force will be the ultimate example of grass roots change.

Wanna join? I'm hoping you do. I'm praying you do. Because nothing is going to change unless we all band together. If you'd like to be part of the exceptional Warrior Moms Task Force, email me at stonecallis {at} gmail {dot} com. In the email, be sure to let me know if there is any issue that you feel particularly passionate about, or project you've always wanted to accomplish when it comes to postpartum depression, postpartum OCD, postpartum anxiety, postpartum PTSD, postpartum psychosis or antenatal depression and anxiety. I want to make sure task force members are able to affect the things they care about.

I can't tell you about all of the projects yet as I need to work with the board of directors of Postpartum Progress Inc. first to refine them, d also to incorporate your ideas, but I'm truly excited.

We are going to make shit happen. Because, as the tagline of Postpartum Progress always says, "together, stronger."

Postpartum Depression: Letting Go of Being Supermom & Surviving With Stevie Wonder

Thank God for the internet and blogging. Else how would we get to read all of these great stories and share in other women's triumphs over perinatal mood and anxiety disorders like postpartum depression. Here are some amazing women.

Sophie in the Moonlight on the holidays, postpartum depression, and NOT being Suuuuupermom:

If the postpartum depression had won and my spectacular suicide attempt had been successful, I would not be here making magnets out of 29-cent wood cutouts, cheap acrylic paint, and sparkly beads with my boys. The kitchen counter has been covered with craft projects for two weeks. I never even remove the brown paper bags I opened up and taped down to save my counter. We simply sweep off the mess of the day and leave stuff ready for the next day. If the PPD had won, I would have missed out on the gazillion foamy sticker cards we've made. Foamy sticker ROCK!! OMG, the boys never get tired of them.

Medicated In Minnesota on the anniversary of her hospitalization and her daughter's second birthday:

I feel that my [postpartum depression] experience was almost two years ago and seriously, I should just get over it. But then I think, "why?" Why should I just get over it? It was a fully traumatic experience being hospitalized and away from my child. It was a traumatic experience to fear being a mother even though it was reality for me.

The Adventures of Anxiety Girl on how Stevie Wonder helped her through postpartum anxiety:

Dancing with Stevie became a family affair & helped get me out of my head & into my body. Many mornings, I'd set the alarm clock to wake us up to this music. At 7 o'clock the horns would begin, and even if I woke up feeling off, my legs would start twitching to move and I would get myself up to dance. Slowly the other sleepy heads who had made their way into our bed in the wee hours would begin dancing, too, and it was a party. My 6 yr. old always wanted to hear "Signed Sealed Delivered" & we would shout out the lyrics as we swung around the room.

I feel the exact same way about Stevie Wonder.