You know what annoys me? When I run out of my antidepressant, and I haven’t had time to get to the pharmacy, and I spend the entire day completely sick to my stomach. It’s only been 12 darn hours since I didn’t take my medication and I’m queasy and green and totally yuck.
What’s annoying you today? Get it off your chest, sister. Share your vents below (just click comments underneath the title of this post and vent away!). Sometimes it helps to get it out! 😉
Well, since you asked… 😉
At least one person in my family has been sick every single day (save for 2) since mid-March. I’m tired. (and not getting much work done.)
That. Sucks. Ugh Amber. Want me to come and spray disinfectant all over everybody?
The fact that the IRS still hasn’t sent us our tax refund, 2 1/2 months after accepting it. We spoke with someone a couple of weeks ago and apparently their computers let us fall through the cracks and nobody had even looked at it yet. They’re supposed to be taking care of it but I’m so irritated, I just want MY money that THEY owe me. I’d also like to get the fines, fees, and penalties paid to me that they would charge me if I dinked around with paying them if I owed them money.
Any time we have to do extra work it’s completely unfair and wrong. It should be illegal. Let’s start a movement. Mothers should not ever be made to do extra work. EVER.
When you’re suffering from insomnia, and everybody and their grandmother thinks they have the answer for your problem: “just have a glass of warm milk and some crackers before bed.” Or “take a nice hot bath to help you relax.” Or, the worst one yet, which is the one that really has me annoyed right now is “if they would get up and go to work for a living [like, as if addressed to a lazy bum on welfare] then they’ll be tired enough to sleep.” ….Ohhh, that comment made me so angry last week!!!!! People really have no idea what insomnia really is (just as people really have no idea what depression really is)!! Trust me, it’s not like I’m not tired!! And it’s not like I don’t WORK—I have a 2-year-old son—trust me, I WORK—HARD! And I am TIRED!!!!! I think I can sum it up in one word what I think it is that annoys me most—IGNORANT COMMENTS FROM IGNORANT PEOPLE!!!!!
Insomnia is awful. Completely 100% certifiably awful. I know. I’ve been there. It’s no help when people act like you can do something about it when you can’t. (Except for get help from a professional, of course.)
YES
Oh, and one more thing—when you totally dress according to the weather forecast, and you end up freezing cold and wet because the weather men were completely off!!! 🙂
It annoys me that my mental health is taking a dive now that I’m pregnant. I dealt with so much postpartum crap that I figured this time I would be in the clear, but the anxiety and depression isn’t even waiting for postpartum this time around. My damn brain annoys me. Thanks for letting me vent!
My brain annoys me too. It would be so much easier if it worked properly all the time. I’m with you on this one!
Reading about how Jessica Simpson wants to cry because motherhood is so wonderful and the most amazing experience ever.
My guess is she’s crying for other reasons, but I hope anyone with a new baby is happy and not suffering from post-partum depression. The annoyance is more about how celebrities make having a baby look like the end of a Hollywood movie.
Lately, I get very annoyed when I share with someone that I’ve been struggling with PPD/A and they say “Well, you don’t SEEM depressed/anxious. It must not be that bad” or “I felt like that after I had my baby. You should go for a walk everyday. That will help.” I know that they’re well-meaning, but it still feels like they are minimizing my struggles with a mental illness.
A very common and very annoying response to PPD. I wonder what we’re supposed to seem like? Or why people are so convinced walking will cure it? I’m sure plenty of readers have heard the same thing and are equally annoyed.
I feel for you! That was going to be my vent too. A primary family member actually had the nerve to point out that I was smiling in all the pictures he could see of me during the time I “said” I was suffering from PPD. Strangely no one had the camera there when I was balled up in the corner, nor did they have a camera inside my brain seeing all the ugly, damaging thoughts that were running on a 24 hour ticker.
Kelli, my own mother didn’t notice anything different when I was suffering from postpartum – save that having a newborn with two other kids is taxing. I think my silence and shame exacerbated the situation. Then, someone pointed it out to me that according to all outward appearances, I looked like I was keeping it together. Maybe sob uncontrollably while taking that walk and you’ll convince more people how bad off you are! (Kidding aside, I hope you find the support you need and can block out the less helpful advice)
I’m annoyed that I’m a capable, intelligent person but I can’t seem to get my emotional eating under control. It feels like food is my only source of comfort but this isn’t how I want to be or who I want to be for my family. Thanks for the open invitation to vent!
Yep. I get it. What’s willpower? I have none. Or very little. It’s interesting how there are things we do that we don’t want to do or wish we didn’t do that we continue to do, if that makes sense. We need Kate Kripke to write a post about why for us, and what to do about it!
Oh my gosh, Nina… I am struggling with the same thing right now, and have been for basically all of 2012. I’m finding out that I have a lot of underlying anxiety that I need to work through and up until this realization (and still…) I’ve been using food to cope. Ugh so annoying and totally something I want to change.
This damn weather!! Rain, clouds, grey, funky barometric pressure… so bad for my nerves and depression. I swear you could look at the calendar and determine the crappy weather days by when I took my benzo! I am so ready for sun, warmth and light.
And the eating thing… yeah, ditto. Especially when you’re a mental illness suffering mom, so everyone else’s relaxation techniques don’t necessarily work for me. Drinking more than a glass or two? Not so ideal on multiple meds. Smoking? No, good example moms don’t do that. Spa day? I’m sorry – what? Get some extra sleep? Bwahahahaha! What’s left – cheese and chocolate. 😉
I agree re: weather. When the barometric pressure changes I get massive migraines. Totally sucks.
It annoys me that I have come so far in my post-partum and right now I feel like I’m slip-sliding back into it. I finally got over my agoraphobia and got a job and got back into college, but when I get home our house is a disaster and I know my husband has been sitting around all day doing nothing while I go to work and school and silently freak out about finances, and term papers and whether people can tell I’ve got emotional/mental issues, etc. It makes me feel like I should just go back to spending 24/7 in my bedroom in the dark because things were easier then. 🙁 Sorry, it’s been a stressful day/week.
Thank you for this, I obviously needed it!
I’m annoyed that my illness is making my son sick. It’s effecting him and a new behavior he started a few days after my surgery.
I pretty much feel like the worst parent in the universe. I am making my baby sick.
I’m beside myself.
You are NOT the worst parent, Kimberly. Yes, your son is affected. It’s traumatic to see your mom have to go to the hospital and get surgery. But he’ll also see you recover and learn that we can get through things. This is going to get better. REALLY.
Not being informed of something VERY critical in securing our rental house that we thought was a “done deal!!!”
When my plan to have a fun night playing board games with my hubby and a friend gets hijacked by my husbands’ other friends, such that they are now all excited to play games I hate. And who do you think is going to get stuck feeding the baby?!
Oh no! That didn’t quite work out the way you wanted it to, did it?!
angry, upset and frustrated that it isn’t even ppd this time but happening during pregnancy. I feel betrayed by my body…I’d been focusing on putting supports in place for when the baby is born, not at all prepared for this and so angry at those who tell me to focus on all the things I have to be grateful for. Yeah, I know and my depression isn’t caused by a lack of gratitude. It’s called a bad combo of genetics and hormones.
Katherine, I forgot my meds for two days, just forgot to call the dang refill in to the pharmacy. I was so sick I thought I was going to die. I hate that. So my gripe is that I hate how I feel when I run out of meds too, it was just my FB status two days ago. I hate that I am so dependent on meds that I get so ill without them. I hate that my oldest son will be 11 this summer and I still take meds every single day (except when I forget to refill the rx!)
I can totally relate to the emotional eating comments. I’m also on board with you, Katherine, and the barometric-pressure-induced migraines
What annoys me most, though, is this “when will the other shoe fall” feeling. After 2 1/2 years of PPD/A (2 babies in 13 months!), I am finally coming out on the other side. Yet, a “normal” bad mood or lazy day fills me with terror b/c I am certain that the depression is coming back. When will my brain come to realize that shoes belong on my feet, not dangling over my head!
I took back Mother’s Day for myself last year, and I did it again this year. My MIL waited until today to ask us about coming down. Not going. I put my foot down. I am starting a new job on Monday, and I need some time to myself to relax and unwind.
I hate how I feel so blamed by others about things. I was so excited to watch the online showing of More Business of Being Born on Monday night, and came way feeling like a total loser/failure for how my birth went. I’ve been struggling with wanting DD to have a sibling and yet not wanting to have the same birth/PPD experience with another baby. I hate how all the mothers around me are popping out #2/#3 without showing any worry about it, even those mothers who have a challenging #1 or who are trying for VBAC.
Oh good. I’m so glad I’m not the only one who doesn’t refill meds on time. I did that this week and had a day without. I felt fine, until 24 hours later when I found myself crying on the soccer field. Sigh.
I am annoyed by the overwhelming amount of judgement in our society. It has really stuck out to me in recent weeks, and it makes me feel sick to my stomach.