Lauren Hale's letter to Time magazine:
I am typing this as my dear daughters are asleep on the floor in our living room after a great evening together including S'mores, Orange floats, a movie, and a chocolate bath.
It is FOR them that I want this. It is FOR women who have experienced and will sadly experience the same level of ignorance and idiocy I myself was exposed to that I want the MOTHER'S Act to pass. No woman deserves to walk into her obstetrician's office and be denied aid or told everything she's feeling isn't real. No woman deserves what has happened to so many of us. Nor does a woman deserve to experience what Amy [Philo] has. I myself have been a victim of Zoloft. It stopped me in my tracks – flashed thoughts of wanting to murder my children through my head. It hospitalized me. Yet here I stand. WITH many other dedicated survivors, reaching out selflessly to those behind us, those who are in the same places we once were. THEY do not deserve uneducated physicians scoffing at them as they dredge every ounce of strength from the depths of their souls in order to avoid harming their children. They deserve compassion, education, understanding, everything the MOTHER'S Act stands for. As survivors – we have a MORAL obligation to tell our stories, to speak up so mothers and families struggling with Postpartum Mood Disorders KNOW they are not alone. When I was hospitalized all I wanted was to talk with another mother who could tell me I wasn't alone. I needed someone to understand what I was going through. Alas, I did not have that. Instead I struggled alone.
I'm sick of the opposition. I'm sick of being slammed because I chose (freely) to take medication. I'm sick of being accused of not being informed when I chose (freely) to take my medication. I'm sick of their lies. I'm sick of their bastardization of this bill. I'm sick of their dedication to limiting the choices and denigrating the hope this bill carries for new mothers everywhere. I'm sick of my hard journey being completely desecrated and ignored because it involves medication as a piece of my recovery.
Mothers need support as they travel through the postpartum period. Regardless of the involvement of medication. They deserve honest, compassionate support at the very least. Not fear-mongering, not harsh words, not screaming, and certainly not judgement. Can't we at least provide that?
Bravo, Lauren!
I too was denied belp by my OG/GYN days after the birth of my daughter. I begged her for help. But all she told me was Anxiety was not a symptom of PPD. How wrong she was.
FANTASTIC letter.
Samantha –
I am so saddened to hear that you too, were denied help. This happens entirely too often for us to stand idly by and watch helplessly as it continues to happen. Caregivers need to be educated and made aware of the many many faces of Postpartum Mood and ANXIETY Disorders that are out there. Just because a mom is smiling and wearing make-up doesn't mean that all is well. All may be well but she may also be putting on a very good show – I know I did and I know several other women who have done the same. It's wrong to feel anything but joy after the birth of a baby according to most. But alas, some of us are not filled with joy for quite some time. We don't deserve judgement. We deserve Compassion, Guidance, and professional support. I strongly believe the MOTHER'S Act will provide a starting point to changing the landscape for the postpartum woman – which is why it needs to be passed!
Ivy & Val – Thanks so much!
Katherine – Thank you for all YOU do and for sharing such wonderful information here at Postpartum Progress. You, my dear, ROCK!
Warmest,
Lauren Hale
Beautifully and aptly stated Lauren.