Do Unwanted or Mistimed Pregnancies Lead to Postpartum Depression?
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nice resource
I will say this…my first pregnancy wasn't planned…and though I was totally happy about it we had other issues that I think lent to my PPD. My husband was in a horrible job where his manager was verbally abusive and would call all hours, not to mention we never knew if he would get laid off, my ILs were horrid and trying to control everything and would make comments like " you shouldn't buy that because what if you lose the baby?" as a way of trying to get their own way of what we purchased for our son. My pregnancy was great, but I ended up fighting with the midwives over helping me into labor (I was quickly approaching 2 weeks over due and I had a feeling it was bad) then spent a lot of time while on pitocin convincing them to let me stay and have the baby. My ILs called incessantly wanting updates even though we told them we would call when he was born. I ended up with a csection (my first EVER surgery of any kind). Then my ILs never left the hospital until the nurses would kick them out at the end of the day…I never got to truly recover from my traumatic birth experience.
I ended up with PPD that lasted until he was almost a year old. I never wanted to hurt him, just give him away to someone more able to care for him than I was. I looked for medical help, but everyone I contacted said they had a months long waiting list. I told my gyn…she told me to contact the same people that put me on the months long waiting lists. I eventually pulled myself out, but not without a lot of help from my husband.
My second pregnancy was easier in a sense that I had so many complications that my ILs never once mentioned anything because I actually COULD lose the baby at any time. The delivery was better since I went with a OB instead of a midwife and was all about getting the baby out. I made a point to tell everyone not to visit me in the hospital and to make sure my son had some distractions from me not being there. She is 8 months old and I have yet to experience any depression. (yay!)
In closing, I could see where stress brought on by unwanted or even mistimed pregnancies can cause PPD. I can also see where many external factors can contribute to it. It is good that they are doing research, because then maybe people will be more willing to take care of moms instead of trying to get a look at the baby.